Life is hard. I don’t think anybody would disagree with me on that. But, sometimes, I think it’s hard only because we make it so. It is really easy to focus on what’s not working – unsatisfying job, unfulfilling relationship, wasted time/dreams….never mind car troubles, bills – taxes! The list can go on and on. Many of us think that the deck is stacked against us. And the more that we focus on all of our worries, the more they seem to pile up! Is that all that there really is to life?
Have you ever had “one of those days”? You wake up late for work. When you jump out of bed, you stub your toe. You spill your coffee as you’re trying to get ready, only to realize that you’re out of milk! Your shower is cold, the traffic is worse than usual, and you can’t find a parking space. Naturally, your day is shot. One thing after another goes wrong.
The only thing that was truly wrong in this scenario was the perspective. When we focus only on the negative, that becomes the only thing that we can perceive. When I find myself in that cycle of negative thinking, I immediately stop myself and try to think of something positive. By turning my thoughts to something that IS good, I am able to get a little perspective.
As soon as I wake up in the morning, I lay in my bed and think of something that I’m grateful for. Sometimes it’s too early to even be that positive! In that case, I think of something good that happened the day before – or even just something that I was able to accomplish that day. I don’t get out of bed until I have a positive thought. That helps me set the tone for the day.
Of course, as the day goes on, other fears, worries and resentments pop up. When that happens, I do it again – think of something positive. It’s a constant process. It takes work. The more you practice thinking positive, the easier it gets. I just recently did a gig that wasn’t as profitable as I had hoped. It was a lot of work to prepare for it and it was a long day. Inevitably, I started to get frustrated and depressed. I was able to recognize where that train of thought was going. So, instead I focused on the fact that the day of the event was beautiful and I got to be outside. I was in the company of friends and we made each other laugh all day. It was a great atmosphere with a lot to see. By looking at my day that way, I could see that it wasn’t a loss. I didn’t make a lot of money, but I had a fantastic experience.
So, what do you want your life to be? Do you want a life filled with fear and frustration or one with peace and joy? You get to decide. Nothing is perfect and life is rarely easy, but there is beauty and light everywhere. All you have to do is look for it.
If you still need a little help finding the blessings in your life, come by Cafe Tu Tu Tango this Friday or Sunday night to get a reading from me. Maybe I can help you find a new perspective!
I have been going through some pretty major changes in my life lately. I have made some decisions that may appear a little risky to others. One of those changes was to quit my day job and become a full time artist and reader. Now, let me let you in on a little secret – not that long ago, if you suggested that I quit my job for that reason, I would have told you that you were crazy. But, that’s exactly what I did.
I won’t lie – it hasn’t been a totally easy transition. There has been a lot of hard work and quite a few sacrifices. Regardless, I know it was the right decision. I followed my heart. Sounds easy, right? Of course it isn’t! Most of us don’t have faith in ourselves. We don’t believe that we can deal with the challenges we may face or the setbacks. And many don’t even know what their higher self sounds like.
For me, the key is joy. As I looked at my life – what was working and what wasn’t – I focused on finding the joy. In the beginning, all I could see was the negative (naturally :-P) so decided to remove the things from my life that brought me pain. That has been quite a process in itself! There were many things in my life that made me uncomfortable, but I was used to them. I very much believed that the devil you know is way better than the one you don’t know. But, I soon started to realize that my expectations that change brought more hardship were preventing me from moving forward. And so I discovered that the unknown wasn’t so scary after all.
As I was banishing negativity from my life, I found that there really were things that brought me joy! When new opportunities arose that could showcase my talents, I became excited. I no longer worried about whether or not they would be successful. I didn’t succumb to the fear of “can I do it?”. I was just happy. I began to realize that, because I wasn’t holding on the the fear and the doubt, I could just experience joy.
To me, the joy that I felt when I was asked to show my work – joy that was no longer hampered by fear that no one would come or doubt that I could handle the amount of work – was my heart talking to me. Joy is the language of my heart. Because I started listening to what my heart was saying, it’s started talking to me more. 😉 Now I know, that no matter what setbacks may occur, I will always get up and dust myself off. I have figured out the language of my heart and will listen to whatever it has to tell me ❤
Come see me this Friday, Saturday and Sunday for a reading at Cafe Tu Tu Tango if you think that you need a little help interpreting the language of your heart!
expectation – ex·pec·ta·tion [ek-spek-tey-shuhn] noun
the act or state of looking forward or anticipating.
I have been thinking a lot about expectations. I never thought that having expectations was a bad thing. Now, I’m starting to see things a little differently.
I used to confuse expectations with goals. When I set myself a goal, I also set an intention. I plan and ultimately take action in order to attain that goal. But, sometimes, things occur that are beyond my control which prevent me from reaching my goal. When that happens, I become disappointed. That disappointment leads to anger, regret and resentment.
That’s when I began to realize that it wasn’t my goal that was important – it was more about the result. I became unhappy when I didn’t get the result that I was expecting. The definition above states that expectations are a result of “looking forward or anticipating” – focusing on the future. The future is something that is most definitely beyond my control. There is also a saying that expectations are future resentments. Resentments are a result of focusing on the past. It is living in the past and worrying about the future that usually brings unhappiness. I would much rather be happy living in the present.
So, now, I prefer to look at my goals more in terms of my intention. When I am mindful of my intentions and living in the present, I can let go of my expectations and be grateful for whatever the result may be. I am better able to appreciate the unexpected gifts that come my way.
There is an old saying, “Shoot for the moon, because even if you fall, you’ll land among the stars.” Goals are important. Set an intention, plan and take action – but let go of expecting a specific result. Then you can be free to enjoy life in the present.
I’ll be reading tarot at Cafe Tu Tu Tango this Friday and Sunday. Come on by and see me if you need a little help focusing on your intentions 🙂
**Author’s Note: When I initially wrote this blog, I spent quite some time composing it on the computer. After typing it all out, I lost the entire piece and could not restore a back up. So, I had to sit down and type it all over again from scratch. I received a first hand lesson in expectations! Who ever said the Universe didn’t have a sense of humor? Lol! Georgie
It is a “7” year in numerology, which is a very spiritual number. The 7 prompts us to question things on a deeper level and to discern what is true and what is not. 2014 is also the Year of the Green Wooden Horse. The Green Wooden Horse year contains the elements Fire and Earth. If you have either of those in your chart, 2014 should be lucky for you. To find out more about your Chinese astrology sign, you can click here; http://www.mastertsai.com/ChineseAstrology/Chineseastrology.htm
Our talented “Woo Woo” gang got together during the first week of 2014, had dinner, talked a lot and discussed astrology, numerology and what 2014 would be like. Here are some short messages from each of us to get the new year started.
Ronnie: Let 2014 come with Love, Hope, Renew Life, and Abundances. We thank 2013 for the what it had to teach us and the things we had to grow as humans. 2014 will be the Renewal of our faith in the God and the Universe to supply us with what we need and the things we want. I will put in as much as I can and only ask that God and the Universe supply me the energy to do the work they have given us, we are here to Enlighten the world of God’s and the Universe Love for us.
Lionrhod: Abundance is ours but we have to recognize, accept and be open to it.
Judith: Moving forward, not back. The 2013 controls have now passed. Sit tight. Moving forward, moving right. 2014 brings us all light.
Gena: Polarization, mirroring patterns, both in personal life and the global scene will be the themes this year. Seek balance and simplicity in your own life. Ask for clarity and love during your prayers and affirmations. It is a year of examining and redefining the world and our place in it.
Georgie: My wish for 2014 is for healing and light for myself and the world. I am willing to accept the abundance that the Universe offers me. I open myself to the Universe so that abundance and joy may flow through me and out to the world. It is with much gratitude that I look forward to connecting with my higher self.
Our collective New Year’s wish for you is for love, balance and abundance in the parts of your life you need it most. Everywhere!
I have noticed in many of my readings that people stress because they push themselves too hard. Most of us have been conditioned to put the needs of other’s above our own. We give 110% on the job. We sacrifice for our families. We support our spouses. I’m all for being giving and compassionate, but we must also be mindful of our own needs.
I truly believe that there is no way that we can be there for someone else unless we take care of ourselves first. Many people mistake being selfish for being hurtful and arrogant. That is more like self-centeredness. When you believe that the world revolves around you, that is harmful and egotistical. Every human being deserves respect and compassion. When you expect another to play only the role that serves you in your personal universe, you are being self-centered.
For me, the idea of being selfish is more like self-preservation. We all know to eat when we are hungry, drink when we are thirsty, sleep when we are tired. But what do we truly know about taking care of ourselves? That is where I feel that many people suffer. It is just as important to take care of our minds and hearts as is it is to take care of our bodies. When you find yourself bending to the will of another because you feel that their needs are more important than your own, you do yourself a great injustice. I feel that it is important to recognize what our hearts tell us.
So, the next time that you are tempted to work extra hours just to impress your boss, stop for a minute. Ask yourself, is the idea that you might get a pat on the back for sacrificing your free time worth losing an opportunity to spend some quality time with your children? Do you want to be selfless or would you rather be full of life and love? We must always balance our responsibilities. However, those responsibilities may suffer if we have no self left to give.
If you are tired and stretched thin, come see me. Maybe I can help you see where you can nurture a little bit more of yourself. I’ll be reading at Cafe Tu Tu Tango’s this Friday, Saturday and Sunday.
As a psychic, I have learned that there is a time to hold on and a time to let go. Oftentimes, when people need help in their lives, that is the root of their dilemma. In jobs, relationships, financial matters, letting go can be the key to finding true happiness. How many times in our lives have we found ourselves holding onto something that no longer serves us? How many times have we stuck with “the devil we know” because we are afraid of the unknown?
It is a frightening idea – letting go of something that is comfortable in hopes that there is something even better. I know that very well myself. I have recently found myself letting go of things in my life because they are no longer comfortable. That discomfort forced me to realize that it was time for change. I don’t know where my path will lead me now, but I have faith in the knowledge that my heart is leading the way. I realized that, the unease that I was feeling in my life, was my heart’s way of telling me that it was time to move on.
Regardless of that faith, the fear remains. That is the next thing that I need to let go. And I believe that will happen when the time is right. Many of us are ruled by fear. We let fear dictate how we will react and what we will choose. Until we can make decisions with our heartcenter, those negative feelings will remain. One way that I try banish that fear is to reach out for help. I look for support from those that love me and those that are wiser than me. It is because of that support that I have had the courage to act from my heartcenter and break the ties that have been unhealthy for me. I feel that part of my journey is to pass on that support and wisdom that has been given to me. As a psychic, I try to help people see a solution to their struggles and show them that they have the power to act within themselves.
I feel such joy and gratitude when I am able to impart some hope and some comfort to someone that is in need. I feel like it is my way of giving thanks to those that have helped me. I understand now that holding on to old ideas can hold me back. I understand that the fear of the unknown only has power as long as I hold onto it. And I understand that fear is not nearly as bad as holding onto something that hurts me – no matter how long it has been a part of my life.
If you struggle with fear and discomfort in your life, come and see me. Maybe I can give you another perspective and show you that you are more powerful than you think. Let me pass onto you the hope that has been given to me.
I’ll be reading at Cafe Tu Tu Tango this Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Many blessings!
I notice in my readings, people are often struggling with various challenges. Relationships, work, finances – these are the areas that most people are concerned with when they come to me for a reading. I always think of them as “The Big 3”. I suppose most people wouldn’t seek out a psychic if everything in their life was peachy keen, now would they? And, naturally, people and financial security are high priorities for most of us. People are looking for answers – “How do I fix it?” “Will it get better?”
When I read, I tell people that I can’t give them all the answers. That lies within them. What I can do is give them insight into the deeper issue – another perspective. The real question is what can they learn from their situation? The challenges that we face in our life serve to teach us lessons. We learn our strengths, our weaknesses and how to better follow the path that we are meant to be on. When we know what is not working, we can get rid of it and leave room for something better.
I, myself, have had a reminder of that. I have found myself facing obstacles and situations that I struggle with. But through my work with my clients as well as a lot of soul-searching and prayer, I have been finding answers. I am realizing that some of the messages that I give my clients are also meant for me. Instead of looking at my challenges as defeat, I have begun looking at them as opportunities. They are opportunities for growth and for change. The deeper that I look within, the closer I find myself coming to the Divine. I understand much better now that some circumstances are out of my control. What is in my control is how I deal with those circumstances. I can find explanations for my challenges – I don’t always like those explanations. They often point to weaknesses in myself – and I don’t want to admit my faults. But admitting my faults is accepting them. And accepting my faults gives me an opportunity to change them. I can’t change my past, but I can change my present and ultimately my future.
So, next time you are faced with a roadblock, ask yourself, “How can I turn this into an opportunity? What good can I get out of this situation?” Often, the answer takes time to make itself clear. But, even asking the questions can show you a new direction and help you make peace with your challenges.
If you still have questions, you can always come see me for a reading 😉 This weekend, I will be at Cafe Tu Tu Tango Friday, Saturday and Sunday….come by and let me help you!